Trust and Safety at Autistic Dating
What Autistic Dating does to keep members safe, what the platform asks of you when you report someone, and how to keep a first date safe.
Profile verification
Autistic Dating offers ID verification to reduce fake accounts. A member who uploads a government-issued ID and passes the check gets a visible badge, so you can see at a glance who has been through it.
Verified and VIP members can filter their searches to show verified profiles only. No verification system is perfect, but a verified profile reduces the risk of encountering a scammer or a fake account.
Active moderation
Our moderation team reviews reported content and accounts. Any member our team confirms has broken our community guidelines, whether by harassment, dishonesty or abusive behaviour, is removed from the platform.
Many autistic adults may find manipulative social behaviour harder to spot in real time, so the platform does not leave it to chance. Direct messages are checked for potentially harmful content such as web links and contact details; only VIP members can switch that check off. Every photo and video is reviewed by the moderation team before it is published, and you are warned when someone tries to move a conversation off the site, which is a common scammer tactic.
Data privacy
Who your data is shared with is set out in our Privacy Policy. Other members see only what you choose to put on your profile. The providers that run payment processing, analytics, advertising, legal support and security for the platform process it on our behalf, affiliates may receive it for the purposes the policy lists, and law enforcement gets it only where the law requires. Your bank statement shows a discreet billing name rather than the site name, so your membership stays private.
You control what appears on your public profile, and your profile is visible to members of the other dating sites we operate as well as to members here. Email address, phone number, and full name are never displayed to other members. Other members see roughly how far away you are, never your precise location.
Anti-harassment policy
Harassment in any form is grounds for removal. This includes repeated unwanted contact after a member has stopped responding, abusive messages, sexual content sent without consent, and any attempt to pressure or coerce a member.
Saying no directly can be hard. Our blocking and reporting tools do not require you to explain yourself to the person you are reporting. Block and report: you pick a reason from a list, upload the evidence the form asks for, and our team handles the rest. Reports are anonymous.
24/7 customer support
Our support team is available around the clock. If you have a safety concern, receive an alarming message, or believe a member is not who they claim to be, contact support straight away. The chatbot in the members area answers first and is always on. To reach a person, choose 'Something Else' in the chatbot and type 'Speak with someone', or send a support ticket and the team replies by email.
Support is also available for account questions, billing issues, and general help using the platform. Autistic members who prefer written communication over phone calls can handle everything through the chatbot, tickets and email. Nobody has to make a phone call.
Safe meeting guidance
When you are ready to meet someone from the platform in person, we recommend standard safe-meeting practices: meet in a public place for the first meeting, tell someone you trust where you are going, keep your own transport arrangements, and trust your instincts.
Autistic adults may find that some social red flags are harder to read in real time than they would be for neurotypical daters. If something felt off during a date, that response is valid even if you cannot articulate exactly why. See our tips below.
Practical safe-meeting tips
Meet in public for the first time
Choose a cafe, park, or other public space for your first meeting. No exceptions, regardless of how well the conversation has gone online.
Tell someone where you are going
Let a trusted friend or family member know who you are meeting, where, and when you expect to be back. Share the person's profile with them if you can.
Arrange your own transport
Have a way to leave independently. Do not rely on the person you are meeting to get you home, particularly for a first meeting.
Trust your instincts
If something feels wrong, it is valid to leave. You do not need to explain yourself or finish the date. A scripted exit line ("I need to make a call") is entirely fine to use.
Do not share personal details too early
Phone numbers, home address, workplace, and financial information should not be shared until you trust the person well. Take the time you need.
Report anything that concerns you
If a message or behaviour makes you uncomfortable, report it via the platform. You do not need to be certain it is a violation. Give the reason, upload the supporting evidence the form asks for, and let us assess.
Does something feel wrong?
Our support team is available 24/7. Report a member, flag a message, or ask for help at any point.
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